Knock knock...
Who is there..?
The pressing...
The pressing who?
The pressing need to please everyone!!!
How many of us have this “need” within us to say yes or to do things to please others, to be in their good books.. why? Anyone handing out certificates that decide your self worth? True, we were raised that way... but... why are we conditioning our next generation to be people pleasers?
We should be conditioning them to be self-reliant for their self-worth. But we can’t preach what we won’t practice. We shouldn’t be.
So let’s begin with ourselves. Shall we..?
For example, you’ve had a long day at work (whether you worked FROM home or you worked FOR home is irrelevant - work is work) and you just want to relax. And your kid(s) wants you to play with them. Some of us will still get up, put on a game face and play while some of us will get up, explicitly tell them that we would rather be relaxing but play - either way, we are doing it again. We wanted to rest but we are not resting now, are we?
What do you think this will lead to? Tiredness, exhaustion, burnout, resentment? Does it have to be this way? We are doing it to ourselves, right? Instead, I want us all to be able to say, “Yes, I would love to play with you, but just not right away. Give me fifteen minutes, please.”
Why do you have to always be there? Why can’t you take a break? What..? Fifteen minutes will be too much for the others to wait for you? Well, then so be it. Fifteen minutes (or whatever you said it was) it is.
Nothing is going to happen to the world while you take your break. The only things that will happen are:
a) You will be feeling rested.
b) You will feel relaxed and ready.
c) Said kids will see you as the human you are versus the superhuman you have been trying to be.
d) Said kids will learn to wait.
And I ask you this.... what is wrong with it, if all of the above happens?
(As with everything, this too shall take practice but it will happen, that I promise.)
🙏🏽
| Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids. |
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
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