We all go through what is commonly termed as FOMO. Every one of us.
This is when we feel we got left out.
Today, I want to write about why we feel left out. It’s not that all of us want to be famous. Not all of us care about it either. It’s so far from our day-to-day life... fame isn’t even on our radar.
What is on the radar though, all the time, is - Friendship. With it comes the expectation that we will be included in (starting with the invitation) every coffee, every celebration, every meeting that takes place amongst people we think of as our friends. That we will be a part of the happy and sad phases of their lives. And they, in our lives.
But, is it always that way?
Isn’t it possible that who we thought as our friends, think of us as mere acquaintances? Isn’t it possible that maybe our definition of friendship is different and that they cannot be met?
Maybe you tried and maybe you still do and maybe you will continue to do things that may get you an "in"… but at what cost?
If they don’t consider you a good friend, as you thought of them, if they think of your friendship as a mere convenience - do you really need them in your life? Do you really have to go to all lengths to be remembered to even just be invited to coffee? If they remembered twenty people and you were the only one forgotten, my dear, that is your sign. You were not forgotten. You were left out. Intentionally. For whatever reason.
Why put yourself through all this?
Any relationship that makes you feel "left out" is not really a relationship - is it?
Maybe it’s time to cut loose. Maybe it’s time to focus all that effort towards people who may want to be a part of your life (who you have maybe treated as acquaintances so far). Maybe it’s time to realize, friendships - like any relationship, cannot be begged for or forced, it just happens.
Rise up. Move on. Lesson learned. Just try not to be the reason someone feels as bad as you felt. It’s that simple.
Thank You
Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids.
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
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