This article is about parents who feel like burnt toasts. Yup, you read that right… and it doesn’t happen overnight. It happens so gradually and so obviously, that we do have the time to stop it from happening and yet we don’t.
It all starts when we become parents from a mere man or a woman. We take it upon ourselves to take care of every need of the child. Now, if this results in and it will - lack of sleep and rest for the primary caregiver - that is normal. However, the next part is where you get o the burning phase.
When someone wants to help you and you refuse the help.
When you create strict rules about how YOU should be the go-to person for every little thing, you set yourself up for more burning.
After you infant becomes a toddler, if you are still feeding them, bathing them, etc.. the burning continues!
When you put your wants and needs last ALL the time, and your child grows up not knowing that that’s normal for them - that’s when the toast is completely burnt.
There is no point in getting overly emotional at that stage. You got yourself there.
You felt the burn on the way to the end.. but you thought you could push through - because of the high standards/expectations you set for yourself!
From the time you bring a child into the world until that feeling of being burnt - you had enough opportunities to make yourself a priority with love. Instead, you wait and wait until you get burnt and then make yourself a priority but now, with anger and resentment for those very people, caring for whom, burnt you.
Who said you have to sacrifice so much?
Who said you are bad if you accept help?
Who said you were going to get a certificate if you died a matyr caring for people or putting yourself last?
No one. But yourself.
So, pop the toast out, while you have the chance, butter it well and enjoy the time you’ve got!
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Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids.
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
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