Have you been in a relationship - romantic or platonic, where, it got claustrophobic for you? Have you ever been “too loved”? Have you felt like you just convinced yourself to let it go because they “care so much for you?!”
A desire for excessive closeness too quickly, being overly familiar, or expecting too much too soon - overloading you with affection so you would feel guilty and ungrateful for wanting out. It is obsessive. It is manipulative. It only suits their needs. It is controlling. It is toxic. For example, they may blame their bad behavior on how much they love and care for you, rather than reflecting that they can choose whether to express their affection in a more healthy and balanced way - so now you begin to justify their behavior as a reaction coming from a place of love.
Slowly but surely, you begin to depend on them because you shouldn’t drive - not because you could hit someone but you could get hit and they don’t want to take that chance - because they love you and can’t bear to see you hurt.
You shouldn’t have to work because that is stressful and they wouldn’t want you to take that stress on - because they love you so much, they’ll take the financial burden on themselves.
You want to go out with your friends wearing that? I will fight you till you change - because I love you, you are mine and I can’t tolerate anyone else looking at you in that!
These are the easiest examples I could think of and how are they different from real love and care?
If there was no manipulation - whether you drive or decide not to, whether you work in a corporate job or decide to be a homemaker, what you choose to wear and when and where - your choices would be supported. Your decisions would be made by you. No one else.
When the power to decide is no longer yours, you are successfully (for them) trapped in their spiderweb of manipulative love and care.
Watch out for signs. Be aware. And be strong enough to identify the spider-webbing and resist it.
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Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids.
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
