Imagine this...you and your partner have had a busy, productive week. So busy that in the past seven days, you barely ate a meal together, maybe twice. So productive that both of you were tired and drifted off to sleep as soon as your head hit the pillow. You didn’t catch up, didn’t go out, didn’t really have a conversation. You spoke to your colleagues way more than you spoke to each other in that week.
You’ve put a pin on quite a few things you wanted to talk about.
Meanwhile, every morning you browsed real quick through your various apps and saw your friends meeting up, your other friend on a date with their partner, yet another friend sharing their personal milestone - and then you wonder - what did you share? How is it that everyone BUT you has such a happening life? How is it that you couldn’t come up with just one thing to post about? How boring is your life? And when did it become so boring? When did your partner begin to lose interest in you? When was the last time you gave or got flowers, just because?
And then the big social media diagnosis checklist’s first few questions flash across your mind...
When did you start ignoring these red flags?
How many red flags did you overlook?
Reddit would call you TA for putting up with this. You will be advised to separate. Go LC or NC!!
But you know what, my loves? The only reason you weren’t posting on social media was because you were having a very good, very productive, very satisfying week personally. It was so good and so gratifying, it didn’t occur to you to look at or post on social media. That’s all. It was a routine week.
Zero red flags.
Sometimes, it’s a hustle. Not a Red Flag. Don’t go self-diagnosing your relationships. Show some grace. Stay grounded. And don’t go labeling everything a certain colored flag. 🙏
Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids.
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
