After a nice long summer, it’s time to get back to the board. As I see everyone around me get busy with back to school and back to office, I noticed (as I am sure you did too), a lot of reluctance on going back to work in the office. Working from home was nice. The past two years have definitely changed how people view their jobs, their lives and the value of their time and effort – not just at work, but at home as well.
It was a pleasant change – to see people prioritize their mental health. A lot of my acquaintances began having conversations about, “Is this really what I am going to spend my time, energy and effort on?!” – I couldn’t stop smiling, because, finally, the penny dropped!!
It was sort of short-lived though... the term being used was “Quiet Quitting”.
From scaling back at workplaces, it started having an impact on personal lives too which also would’ve been great, had it not been taken quite so literally.
Let’s talk about quiet quitting relationships. When boiled down to bare basics, it gets reduced to ghosting – when done without any cause or warning.
This article is only applicable to us no longer having tolerance or patience with minor glitches in a relationship – not addressing toxic ones or years of bad experiences with the same person(s) – at this time.
If you are having a difficult time with someone, ideally, you would talk about it. You have invested so much of yourself too in the relationship. You don’t just quit. On them, on the relationship, and for sure, you don’t just quit on yourself.
I recall writing about cutting the cord, mentally checking out of certain situations. Quiet quitting is just that, except, more and more people are just doing it without any regard to the other party involved or whether there really is some so dramatic that you just can’t tolerate!
Some real life examples: (and I am not kidding here)
My friend refuses to meet me half way for dinner – maybe I don’t want to do this anymore!
My relative suggested/opined on something I said or did, they never did before now or even if they did, it didn’t bother me so much before now – so you know what, I don’t need that noise in my life!
But my dear, if you keep quitting relationships like this pretty soon you will be in a relationship with only yourself and by then you will have turned so bitter – you will begin to find faults even with yourself – quitting on a relationship with yourself means giving up altogether.
Relationships need work. Any relationship – your relationship with your sibling, with your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends – all these need work. They will never be perfect. Friendship, marriage, parenthood etc are all verbs – action words. Build tolerance. Learn to pick and choose what you want to work for and what truly can be released.
How we release things (or quit them) also should be done gracefully and kindly – more on that next time...
For now, don’t give up so easily.
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Sweta Shah Sakhpara is a pranic energy therapist and a pranic psychotherapist. She also teaches mindfulness and meditation to kids, adults and families. When she is not doing any of the above, she actively practices being a mindful parent to two kids.
Having learned and practiced pranic healing for ~fifteen years, Sweta has been blessed with the trust of many clients for ailments as simple as a headache to complex ones like Tourette’s syndrome, from depression and anxiety to finding ways to embrace the idea of a new normal with a child being diagnosed on the spectrum. You could read more about her HERE.
